Gaslighting at Work: How to Spot and Deal with It

Have you ever found yourself questioning your own sanity, memory, or perception of reality after a conversation with a colleague or a boss? Do you often feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells around certain people at work? If so, you may be a victim of gaslighting.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person makes another person doubt their own sanity or perception of reality. It is a subtle and insidious form of emotional abuse that can leave victims feeling confused, anxious, and helpless.

Gaslighting can occur in any type of relationship, including in the workplace. In fact, gaslighting in the workplace is becoming increasingly common, with a recent study showing that 57% of UK workers have experienced gaslighting at work.

So, what can you do if you suspect that you are being gaslit at work? And, how can you prevent gaslighting from happening in your workplace in the first place? Let’s take a closer look.

How to spot gaslighting at work

Gaslighting can be difficult to spot, as it often starts off subtly and can escalate over time. Here are some signs to look out for:

1. You are constantly second-guessing yourself. A gaslighter will often make you doubt your own abilities, memory, or perception of reality.

2. You feel like you are walking on eggshells. A gaslighter may use subtle threats or intimidation tactics to keep you in line.

3. You are constantly apologizing or making excuses. A gaslighter will often make you feel like everything is your fault.

4. You feel like you are going crazy. Gaslighting can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and helpless.

5. You are being isolated. A gaslighter may try to isolate you from your colleagues or friends, in order to control you.

How to deal with gaslighting at work

If you suspect that you are being gaslit at work, it is important to take action. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Keep a record of incidents. Write down dates, times, and what was said or done.

2. Talk to someone you trust. This could be a colleague, friend, or family member.

3. Seek professional help. A therapist can help you deal with the emotional impact of gaslighting.

4. Confront the gaslighter. Be clear and assertive about what you will and will not tolerate.

5. Set boundaries. Establish clear boundaries with the gaslighter and stick to them.

Preventing gaslighting in the workplace

Preventing gaslighting in the workplace requires a proactive approach. Here are some steps employers can take to create a workplace culture that does not tolerate gaslighting:

1. Educate employees. Provide training to employees on what gaslighting is and how to recognize it.

2. Encourage open communication. Create an environment where employees feel comfortable speaking up and sharing their concerns.

3. Set clear expectations. Establish clear expectations for workplace behavior and hold employees accountable.

4. Address issues promptly. Take action as soon as issues arise, and make it clear that gaslighting will not be tolerated.

5. Foster a positive workplace culture. Create a workplace culture that values empathy, respect, and collaboration.

Gaslighting can be a difficult and emotionally draining experience, but it is important to remember that you are not alone. By taking action and seeking support, you can regain your sense of self and protect yourself from future gaslighting. And, by creating a workplace culture that values open communication, respect, and accountability, we can work towards creating a safer and healthier workplace for all.

This article was first published on 12/10/22.